As we grow up, each of us develops a worldview — a story about who we are, what we believe, and what makes us feel safe. Most of us spend the rest of our lives sticking to our story. We see what we can tolerate seeing and disregard the rest. The vast majority of our everyday behaviors are automatic and habitual, rather than intentional and self-selected, and too often they’re reactive and defensive. Even as adults, our early experiences of vulnerability can be retriggered instantly whenever our safety and worthiness feel under threat.